March 27, 2015

Do More, Be More, Try More

Dear Staff -

Your YMCA is almost 23 years old. We started in the basement of Robin Hendrick’s house with some legal pads and paper clips that I stole from the High Point YMCA when I left. We started in a basement with just a dream.

I know many of you are tired of hearing me say, “Do more” or “try this.” But that is how our YMCA has evolved. We have always challenged the status quo and tried to be innovators. It was about growing programs, starting new programs, leading our community and somewhere along the way it truly became about making our community better.

Doing more or doing bigger and greater work is part of our DNA. Mankind has always been about reaching and growing. We came out of the cave and we looked over the hill. We crossed an ocean that was supposed to be flat and we risked everything to explore the west. We took to the sky and we discovered the unimaginable. The history of man, as is the history of our YMCA, is hung on “what’s next.”

So when I talk about changing the work of our youth sports programs into a program that develops future leaders and helps create new adult leaders, don’t roll your eyes.

And when I talk about how we can change the declining trajectory of our families by building assets in our households, don’t feel anxiety.

Or even when we say wellness is not about the next big class or trendy program, it’s about changing the culture in our community to be one focused on healthier lifestyles, that’s not something new on the already busy to-do list.

Be it eradicating drownings in aquatics, creating the next great staff leader from our part time staff or even just creating joy in the lives of the physically and mentally handicapped that walk through our doors, our mission and our DNA says we need to do more. We need to find the challenge in front of us and take it “head on.”  

Several great employees prepared the way for you to be able to do what you do every day. And you should have a vision of preparing the way for that leader 23 years from now.
When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before. - Jacob Riis

March 11, 2015

Penalty Flags

Watching the news can be depressing - Iran, Iraq, Nut and Yahoo, Save an email, delete an email, idiot frat boys.....I could keep rambling.

I do have a couple of thoughts:

1. I wish there was a penalty flag we could throw on the news media for a late hit because the media loves to pile on. They can beat a story to death and show after show after show keep saying the same thing.

2. I am headed to DC Friday, a city that I love. Our government and our politicians should give us hope but instead they give us angst. Term limits and campaign finance reform would solve some problems. It would force them to work and stop all the grandstanding and constant fund raising.

It's hard to be a leader - especially a public leader like a school superintendent, public servant or a municipal manager. When you have so many different people to please, you can't win. The best of those leaders just "DO." When they are damned if they do or damned if they don't, they just DO!

I heard recently at a funeral a phrase that has motivated me to be a better leader: "We're all children of God, very few of us become a Man of God."

That is my prayer for you and me this week!!

December 22, 2014

2014 Cammy Awards

This is something that everyone waits 11 1/2 months for each year and that is the highly prestigious Cammy Awards.

These are my favorite things from the past year and they are completely random and pretty much useless. So I want keep you waiting any longer, cue the music....

Top Movies of  2014...I don't go see movies so I will list the Top 5 Movies I will always stop and watch if I see them while changing channels.
1. Pale Rider
2. Forrest Gump
3. The Magnificent Seven
4. Saving Private Ryan
5. Anchorman (Added by Brooks)



Top TV Shows of 2014
1. The Goldbergs 
2. Modern Family
3. Diners, Drive Ins and Dives (Again added by Brooks)
4. Newsroom (We don't have HBO but I got Season 1 as a Fathers Day gift...Hint, Hint for you late shoppers)

Best Music of 2014
1. Taylor Swift (Don't Hate - Shake it off!!! and Added By Brooks)

Famous People I’d Like to Hang Out With
1. Kelly Rippa
2. Brad Paisley
3. Peyton Manning  (Added by Brooks)
4. Coach K (I know I know, but I find Rat Face really intriguing and I love to talk basketball. I'd probably flip a booger in his coffee though)

Favorite 2014 Sports Moments
1. Running the Holy Half Marathon with Ryanne in March
2. Brooks Sr Football season
3. Notre Dame beating Duke in basketball
4.Winning my fantasy football league championship yesterday
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2014 Favorite Restaurants
1. Giardini Trattoria – Columbus, NC
2. Purple Onion - Saluda, NC
3. Don Ramons – Shelby, NC

2014 Best Beers
1. Stella Artois
2. Miller Genuine Draft
3. Miller Beer (Cheap is good, also a hint for you late shoppers!)

2014 Best NPR Shows
1. Wait, Wait Don't Tell
2. Ask Me Another
3. Ted Talks in Review (I am a Nerd and Old! Help Me Please)



December 5, 2014

FRIDAY NIGHT LIGHTS

There is a certain energy on Friday nights when the high school football team plays. A nice cool crisp evening; the mass of school colors; the rhythm of the music; the cadence of the cheerleaders and the anxiety that this could be the last time your son ever plays the game. I try not to over dramatize high school football but for a group of 14-18 year olds, they are “the Band of Brothers.”

My son’s high school team lost last weekend in the 3rd round of the state playoffs. When the final horn sounded and I walked down to the field to get my post game hug, I felt a lump in my throat. Many of the players tried to hide their tear filled eyes as they knelt during the post-game prayer. It was hard not to feel proud of these young guys for what they accomplished. Because the remarkable part of their season was not the 10-4 record it was the fact that when they were freshmen they went 0-11.

It was agonizing four years ago watching them lose every Friday night but something was happening. They were getting better. I could see it, they could see it, their coaches could see it and the opposition could see it. Hope sprang for the group of 14 year olds that season. 0-11 turned into 6-6 and then 8-4 and finally this year’s phenomenal season.

I learned 4 LEADERSHIP LESSONS from these “Band of Brothers.”

LEADERSHIP LESSON #1: Love and Trust is the cornerstone to any successful team. The truly successful teams love and trust each other unconditionally. Leadership creates the trust that each person will play their assigned roles, will be mentally and physically ready to play every day, and that 
coaches, captains and the seniors are taking you in the right direction.

LEADERSHIP LESSON #2: Serving is greater than being served. A few of the players crying after the loss were young kids that hardly saw the field this year. Yet, even though they didn’t play, they were part of the brotherhood. They stood in the huddle every day and they were practicing every day for something greater than self.

LEADERSHIP LESSON #3: Incremental growth can lead to exponential growth. The saying that a rising tide raises all boats is so true. When one player improves just a little it helps the team but it also helps improve another teammate and then another, and then another. Summer workouts become less of a chore and more just second nature. Eventually the exponential growth has multiplied across the team as 14 year olds become 18 year olds.

As I stood around the group of coaches and players huddled in prayer it was hard knowing this was the last football huddle for Brooks. Even though there was mostly silence across the group, you could feel everything. You could feel the frustration of losing a close game. You could feel the steam and sweat floating up over the huddle and you could feel the tears of so many wonderful young men.

It was in the midst of one of the saddest moments in their young lives that I realized LEADERSHIP LESSON #4: Greatness comes when we all become one. In that final huddle, thanking God for blessing us more than we deserve, we had one heart-beat. Parents, Brothers, Sisters, Coaches, Players, Cheerleaders, Managers…we were all just a small part of something really cool!


CLEAR EYES, FULL HEARTS, CAN’T LOSE….On to basketball season!!